Life & Career

Let's talk about being authentically ourselves. This is something I have struggled with my entire life. I was trying to find where I fit in and how to be palatable for others. It all started when I was very young. I was bullied a lot. I was made fun of for the way that I looked, what I wore, what I liked and didn't like. For years moving forward I struggled to make friends and feel genuinue love. My first bully was my mother. She judge me down to my blood cells. I was too fat or too skinny. Why am I listening to that music? Why did I color my hair? Why do I want the piercings I have? You look just like your father (in such a distasteful tone). Even my brother bullied me and made fun of me for being fat and having broad shoulders. I…

I always tell my clients that I will always show up as a human first before a therapist. In the words of my best friend Branden, "Life comes at you fast."

I have been struggling with my personal life. As someone who is healing from a transition in their life that is probably one of the most painful journies in their life. It continues to be hard. It continues to be the epitome of heavy. Yet, I wake up and I continue.

I am writing this post struggling with how much of my life I want to disclose because of access. The fear of giving access to my life to people.

I have always seen the beauty in being vulnerable. I see vulnerability as a form of strength but there is the other side of being raw and exposed as an opportunity to get hurt. I feel like if…

So it all started when I was in high school. I used to come home after school and my favorite show to watch was Law & Order: SVU. My favorite character ( besides Olivia and Elliot) was BD Wong. He was a forensic psychologist and a criminal profiler. I found his work interesting but he always has such a kind and nurturing aspect to his character. He was the type of person that made you feel like "Yes, I feel safe to talk to you." So I decided I wanted to become a therapist. At first, I wanted to be a criminal psychologist for many years. So I received my first master's in Criminal Justice. Once I graduated I became a mom and I realized the type of population of individuals I would have to work with and potentially going out in the field. I changed my mind. I the…